Ukuba nalo mqondo wokuthi “thina” kuhlotshaniswa nezinzuzo eziningi, okuhlanganisa ukwaneliseka kwempilo, ukubumbana kweqembu, ukusekela nokubonisa ukuzethemba.Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuba khona kweqembu, umzamo kanye nevolumu yokuzivocavoca ephakeme kunamathuba amaningi lapho abantu behlonza kakhulu iqembu lokuzivocavoca.Ukuba seqenjini lokuzivocavoca kubonakala kuyindlela enhle yokusekela isimiso sokuzivocavoca.
Kodwa kwenzekani lapho abantu bengakwazi ukuthembela ekusekelweni kweqembu labo lokuzivocavoca?
Elabhu yethu ye-kinesiology eNyuvesi yaseManitoba, sesiqalile ukuphendula lo mbuzo.Abantu bangase balahlekelwe ukufinyelela eqenjini labo lokujima lapho bethuthela kwenye indawo, beba umzali noma beqala umsebenzi omusha oneshejuli eyinselele.NgoMashi 2020, abaningi abazivocavoca ngamaqembu balahlekelwa ukufinyelela emaqenjini abo ngenxa yemikhawulo yemibuthano yomphakathi ebihambisana nobhubhane lwe-COVID-19.
Ukufakwa kwesimo sezulu okuthembekile, okucatshangelwayo nokuzimela kudinga ukwesekwa kwabafundi.
Ukuhlonza neqembu
Ukuze siqonde ukuthi ukuzibophela eqenjini elizivivinyayo kwenza kube nzima ukujima uma iqembu lingekho, sibuze amalungu eqembu lokuzivivinya ukuthi angasabela kanjani uma iqembu lawo lokuzivivinya lingasatholakali kubo.Abantu abahlotshaniswa kakhulu neqembu labo babengenaso ukuzethemba mayelana nekhono labo lokuzivocavoca bodwa futhi bacabanga ukuthi lo msebenzi uzoba nzima.
Abantu bangase balahlekelwe ukufinyelela eqenjini labo lokujima lapho bethuthela kwenye indawo, beba umzali, noma beqala umsebenzi omusha oneshejuli eyinselele.(I-Shutterstock)
Sithole imiphumela efanayo ezifundweni ezimbili ezisazobuyekezwa ngontanga, lapho sihlole ukuthi abavocavoci basabela kanjani lapho belahlekelwa ukufinyelela emaqenjini abo okuzivocavoca ngenxa yemikhawulo ye-COVID-19 emibuthanweni yamaqembu.Futhi, abavocavoci abanomqondo oqinile wokuthi “thina” bazizwa benokuzethemba okuncane ngokuzivocavoca sodwa.Lokhu kuntula ukuzethemba kungenzeka ukuthi kwabangelwa inselelo yokuthi amalungu kufanele ahambe “ebanda” ngokubamba iqhaza kweqembu, futhi kungazelelwe alahlekelwe ukwesekwa nokuziphendulela okwanikezwa yiqembu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, amandla obunikazi beqembu labavivinya umzimba ayengahlobene nokuthi bazivocavoca kangakanani bodwa ngemva kokulahlekelwa amaqembu abo.Umuzwa wokuzivivinya wokuxhumana neqembu ungase ungaguquleli kumakhono abasiza ukuthi bazivocavoce bodwa.Abanye abavocavoca esixoxisane nabo kubikwa ukuthi bayeke ukujima ngesikhathi semikhawulo yobhubhane.
Lokhu okutholakele kuhambisana nolunye ucwaningo oluphakamisa ukuthi uma abavocavoca bethembela kwabanye (kulokhu, abaholi bokuzivocavoca) baba nobunzima bokuzivocavoca bodwa.
Yini engahlomisa abavocavoci beqembu ngamakhono kanye nogqozi lokuzivocavoca ngokuzimela?Sikholelwa ukuthi ukuhlonza indima kungaba ukhiye.Uma abantu bezivocavoca neqembu, bavamise ukuzakhela igama hhayi nje njengelungu leqembu, kodwa nangendima yomuntu ozivocavocayo.
Ubunikazi bokuzivocavoca
Kunezinzuzo ezingenakuphikwa zokuzivocavoca kweqembu, njengokubumbana kweqembu nokusekelwa kweqembu.(I-Shutterstock)
Ukuhlonza njengomuntu ozivocavoca (ukuzivivinya kwendima) kuhlanganisa ukubona ukuvivinya umzimba njengento ewumgogodla wokuzizwa komuntu siqu kanye nokuziphatha ngendlela efanayo nendima yokuzivocavoca.Lokhu kungase kusho ukuvivinya umzimba njalo noma ukwenza ukuvivinya umzimba kube yinto eza kuqala.Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuxhumana okuthembekile phakathi kobunikazi bendima yokuzivocavoca kanye nokuziphatha kokuzivocavoca.
Abazivocavoca beqembu abanophawu lwendima eqinile yokuzivocavoca bangase babe sesimweni esingcono kakhulu sokuqhubeka bezivocavoca ngisho nalapho belahlekelwa ukufinyelela eqenjini labo, ngoba ukuzivocavoca kuwumgogodla wokuzizwa kwabo.
Ukuhlola lo mbono, sibheke ukuthi ubunikazi bendima yokuzivocavoca buhlobene kanjani nemizwa yabavocavoca beqembu mayelana nokuzivocavoca bodwa.Sithole ukuthi kuzo zombili izimo ezicatshangelwayo nezingokoqobo lapho abavocavoca belahlekelwa ukufinyelela eqenjini labo, abantu abahlonze kakhulu ngendima yokuzivocavoca babezethemba kakhulu ekhonweni labo lokuzivocavoca bodwa, bathola lo msebenzi ungenzima futhi bawusebenzisa kakhulu.
Eqinisweni, abanye abavocavoca umzimba babike ukuthi babona ukulahlekelwa kweqembu labo phakathi nobhubhane njengenye inselele okufanele bayinqobe futhi bagxile emathubeni okuzivocavoca ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngamashejuli amanye amalungu eqembu noma izintandokazi zokujima.Lokhu okutholakele kusikisela ukuthi ukuba nomuzwa onamandla wokuthi “mina” kungase kunikeze amalungu eqembu amathuluzi adingekayo ukuze azivocavoce ngaphandle kweqembu.
Izinzuzo zika-'thina' kanye 'nami'
Abazivocavoca bangachaza ukuthi kusho ukuthini kubo mathupha ukuba umuntu ongazivocavoci ngaphandle kweqembu.(Pixabay)
Kunezinzuzo ezingenakuphikwa zokuzivocavoca kweqembu.Abazivocavoca bebodwa abazitholi izinzuzo zokuhlangana kweqembu nokusekelwa kweqembu.Njengochwepheshe bokubambelela ekuzilolongeni, sincoma kakhulu ukuzivivinya kweqembu.Kodwa-ke, siphinde siphikisane ngokuthi abavocavoca abathembele kakhulu emaqenjini abo bangase bangakwazi ukuqina ekuzilolongeni kwabo ngokuzimela - ikakhulukazi uma belahlekelwa ukufinyelela eqenjini labo ngokuzumayo.
Sibona kuwukuhlakanipha ukuthi abavocavoci beqembu bakhuthaze ubunikazi bendima yokuzivocavoca ngaphezu kobunikazi beqembu labo lokujima.Lokhu kungase kubukeke kanjani?Abavivinya umzimba bangase bakuchaze ngokucacile ukuthi kusho ukuthini kubo siqu ukuba umuntu ozivocavoca ngaphandle kweqembu, noma baphishekele imigomo ethile neqembu (ngokwesibonelo, ukuziqeqeshela ukugijima okujabulisayo namalungu eqembu) neminye imigomo yodwa (ngokwesibonelo, ukugijima umjaho. ngesivinini somuntu esisheshayo).
Sekukonke, uma ubheke ukusekela isimiso sakho sokuzivocavoca futhi uhlale uvumelana nezimo lapho ubhekene nezinselele, ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi "thina" kuhle, kodwa ungalahlekelwa umbono wakho wokuthi "mina."
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Jun-24-2022